Last updated on February 11, 2020by
If you often find yourself stuck in periods of self-loathing and mental angst, one of the best things you can do is to learn to love yourself.
And we’re not talking being vain and thinking you’re better than anyone else; we’re talking being real and refusing to be anything less than anyone else.
You should be able to love and show compassion towards yourself just as you would towards a loved one.
You are your own teacher.
How, then, will you love another if you don’t even know how to love yourself?
Nurture yourself, and you will be able to nurture others.
Infuse yourself with positivity, and you will attract positivity and positive people into your life.
Life is about learning. Let’s learn to love ourselves!
4 Steps to Self-Love – A Comprehensive Breakdown
Step 1 – Take care of yourself – mentally and physically
Self-love starts with self-care.
You are not able to efficiently care for another if you are not able to look after yourself first.
Practice daily meditations and breathing exercises for mind relaxation and be sure to get at least 20 minutes of physical activity and sunlight per day.
Eat regular and nourishing meals with high nutritional values.
You will start to feel amazing and the effects will resonate in all aspects of your life in a positive and loving manner.
Step 2 – Forgive – yourself and others
When you forgive, you also release and set free the bonds that kept you from being who and what you wanted to be.
Forgiving yourself and others unconditionally will set off a ripple of positive waves in your life.
You will feel light and free and, most importantly, happier.
Realizing and embracing that nobody is perfect, that everybody has imperfections and that we are all one, despite our differences will help you to forgive.
Let go of guilt or resentment, it will only cause you misery and pain.
Forgive and let be and start LIVING!
Start by forgiving yourself, then work your way to others, if any.
Step 3 – Be grateful – even for the little things
Gratitude comes with its own set of benefits and manifestations.
You will find that the more grateful you are for something, the more of it you will receive!
Be thankful for every blessing that comes your way, even the things that have become so routine that you don’t even think about them anymore.
For example, you buy yourself a cup of coffee before work every day – be grateful and thankful that you have the money to buy this.
You are more privileged than many on this earth just by being able to buy that one cup of coffee.
Try giving thanks to the universe/God for every purchase you are able to make, and really mean it – see what happens 😉
Once you start focussing your attention on being grateful, you will find that it’s one of the easiest things to do as you have so much to be grateful for!
Just the fact that you opened your eyes this morning is already something to be grateful for.
If you’re reading this you probably have a roof over your head, clothes to wear and a warm bed to sleep in.
You wash with soap, you have the luxury of wearing deodorant, you get to choose what clothes you wear (yes, some people don’t have that right), you may have to walk 4 blocks to get somewhere, but hey, you have TWO LEGS that are in working order.
Those are all incredible things to be grateful for.
And these are only physical things!
You can also be grateful for your ever so loyal pet or the amount of love that is showered on you from your closest and dearest.
We dare you – be grateful every day, even if only for one thing!
Step 4 – Take note of your inner voice – Be kind to yourself.
Think about it – when you’re lying there in your dark hole of depression and you’re telling yourself how worthless you are and how you can’t do anything right and that you always let people down so you deserve this, will you show the same type of cruelty to a family member or other loved one going through the same experience?
Your answer is probably a big fat NO.
If your answer is yes, then you really shouldn’t be reading this article and instead, be seeking professional help as your problem is too deep-seated and needs to be addressed and attended to as soon as possible in order to ensure your normal functionality in society.
It is important not to try to get rid of your negative thoughts.
Just accept that they are there.
If you try to get rid of them they will increase in amount and intensity, so best is to just be mindful of them, accept that you have them and then see if you can turn that thought around into something positive by approaching yourself as you would a friend if they were going through the same issue.
AnxietyPanda suggests that you bookmark this page in order to read through and remind yourself of the four steps on a daily basis. Retraining your brain and patterns takes time and constant reminders to focus on a better, healthier and happier you.
You can do this!
Feeling overwhelmed and worried that you will not be able to break years worth of routine self-criticism and neglect?
It’s okay and a normal reaction to feel.
Take it one step at a time.
There are many more ways to love yourself than the four steps listed above, don’t feel restricted by these, they are just the most important ones according to AnxietyPanda.
Take your time, start by focusing on just one step and once you’re comfortable and in the habit of that, then move on to the next.
You will find it gets easier to do the more you do it, as with most things in this world.
There will be days when you feel like giving up and giving in to the horrible voice inside you that tells you that you are not worth loving.
Challenge that voice and push through, nothing worthwhile comes without hard work and dedication. Who better to be dedicated to than yourself?
The benefits are obvious!
For further research and a resource of wonderful affirmations to get you started on your journey to self-love, follow this link 🙂
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