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AnxietyPanda Investigates – What Is A Melancholy Personality?

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Last updated on November 29, 2019

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Did you know that in psychology there are four different major personality traits or temperaments that a person may exhibit?

They are called Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholic and Phlegmatic.
There are also mentions of a fifth temperament – Supine. 

Many people show a combination of these traits in their behavior. It is important to point out that there has never been any scientific proof of these personality types, but interestingly enough in a recent 2018 study, scientists have now determined that evidence indeed does exist for personality types. They call them Average, Self-Centred, Role Model, or Reserved, with most people being Average.

For the purposes of this article, AnxietyPanda will be investigating what is a Melancholy personality specifically.

What is a Melancholy personality? Some traits and characteristics

The idealistic Melancholic is often more prone to anxiety and depression than the other personality temperaments. They are also creative, philosophical and want everybody around them to be happy – often leading to them self-sacrificing a lot on behalf of other people. They allow themselves to be easily taken advantage of and often are.

Many melancholics are overly sensitive or emotional and will often be seen as pessimistic, although that may not always be their intention.

Friendship wise, they would prefer 1 close friend than many friends. They are extremely loyal and dedicated, so you can be sure that if you have a Melancholic as a friend, they will stick with you for life. Unless you hurt them. They may forgive you, but it will take longer. And, they never forget…
They also prefer one-on-one social engagement and will shy away from large social gatherings.

Because of their perfectionistic and orderly tendencies, a Melancholic parent will often expect perfectionism from their children. Be careful of enforcing your own ideas on your child, who may not share your traits. Melancholics place a high value on education and the development of creative abilities. Their homes will most probably also be clean and orderly and the kids will be expected to bring their part.

At work, the Melancholic is deadline driven, pays attention to detail, and have the ability to solve problems creatively. Their work is always completed on time and they like to leave their desks neat and orderly.

A problem for many Melancholics is with the expression of gratitude and being thankful. Not because they are rude, but because they often think that certain things just ought to be done and therefore no thanks are needed. They just don’t see the logic in it. So, this is definitely something they can pay attention to and try to better, as most of society really appreciate gratitude.

Melancholy Strengths and Weaknesses

melancholic strengths and weaknesses

As you can see from the above table, there are just as many strengths as weaknesses for the Melancholic. These, however, are not the only ones, but the most important ones. A Melancholy’s weaknesses are easy to control and when their strengths are continuously nurtured, you will see them blossom into an amazing human being.

Best Career Choice for the Melancholic Personality Type

As long as the job description includes precision or the ability to “give back”, the melancholic personality will thrive. Some famous Melancholics include Albert Einstein (Physicist), Vincent Van Gogh(Artist), John Keats (Poet), and Audrey Hepburn (Actress).

There are many vocations for the Melancholic out there. Here are a few to get your thoughts moving in the right direction:

  • Accountant
    Melancholic Careers
  • Actress
  • Architect
  • Artist
  • Bookkeeper
  • Craftsmen
  • Doctor or surgeon
  • Editor
  • Geoscientist
  • Inventor
  • Mechanical Engineer
  • Musician
  • Nurse
  • Philosopher
  • Physicist
  • Teacher
  • Vet
  • Vet nurse
  • Writer or poet

Self-Improvement Techniques for the Melancholic

Do at least one thing every day that makes you happy.

By doing this, it also means that you will be spending less time doing the things that make you unhappy. The benefits of happiness speak for itself. It is extremely important to stop doing things that will make other people happy. Start focusing on things that make YOU happy. Start with something small, like blowing bubbles, for example, and gradually work your way up from there.

Take care of yourself.

Taking care of your health, both mentally and physically, should be one of your top priorities if you are a Melancholic. Be sure to take your multivitamins and stay away from the negative thoughts – they are not true and certainly not good for you.

Every time you have a negative thought, try to counter it with a positive affirmation, such as “I approve of myself”. AnxietyPanda has found much success with this technique.

Also, be sure to eat healthily and get enough exercise. Look after your body as if it is your most prized possession. You are guaranteed to feel terrific once these healthy habits have been formed.

Give back.

Donate to or volunteer at your favorite charity. It’s good for your soul, especially volunteering, as you might see that your problems are not half as bad as those of the less fortunate.

Or, help someone in need unexpectedly. Just do something kind for someone else on a regular basis. By giving, your happiness is sure to increase.

Practice healthy sleeping habits.

If you’re well rested, your mood will automatically be a lot better. Try to go to bed and get up at the same times, every day. Sleep in a darkened room, get heavier curtains if you must. If you live in a noisy city, why not consider getting noise-canceling headphones or listen to some binaural beats, as in the video below:

How To Make A Melancholy Happy

It is important for the Melancholic to feel validated and needed, even if they seem to shrug off compliments or seem disinterested in you. They really take every compliment to heart and being treated with empathy means the world to them.

Spend time with them and let them know that you care by showing them patience and understanding with the things that they are going through. Remember, empathy is key.

Surprise them with a gift, or take them out to one of their favorite activities. This will help them take their mind off their troubles. Be sure that it is something they like, and not something that you like.

The Melancholic and Love

The Melancholic is one of the most difficult, but also most passionate of the personality types to love.

They may be moody, awkward, or overly cautious, but once the Melancholy has chosen to love you, they will remain loyal and faithful to you until the end. They really take their relationships seriously and definitely wishes for ideal love and romance, just like in the fairy tales.

They tend to be fearful of many things and this may cause them to seem clingy or demanding. They are also very traditional in their way of thinking.

You will need to show a lot of love, patience, and empathy. It will be worth it.

Melancholic Personality Test

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  1. Cheryl Kohan Cheryl Kohan

    I’m going to read about all the other personalities. I was going to ask if you can be a combination but I see you answered that in another comment!

    This is a wonderful site and I’m going to share it.

  2. Dora Dora

    The Melancholy Personality that you are writing about describes my mother to a T.  I love my mother always and forever, but there are times when it becomes too much for me.  Growing up with my Mom was difficult at times for me and my 3 sisters, because everything had to be done her way, if not then your doing it wrong.  I’ve tried to explain to her many times that people do things the way they feel more comfortable, and that was hard for her to understand.  Today my Mom is 73 and she has been showing signs of Dimetia and you can’t image how much more difficult she is to handle.  All in all she is a very lovable person when she wants to be, but sometimes she can be unreasonable and stubborn, but I still love her unconditionally. 

    Thanks for listening to my Crazy life.


    • AnxietyPanda AnxietyPanda

      Hi Dora 🙂

      Thanks for being brave enough to share this part of your life with us. As much as parents should not enforce their ways and manners on their children, so too the children of these parents should not allow them to control them beyond adulthood. It is wonderful that through it all you are still compassionate and loving towards your mother. 

      Our time on earth is short together. In the difficult times, try to practice understanding towards her. Try to find the good behind the situation.

      All the best to you. Feel free to pop around at anytime if you wish to share more or just to say hi.


  3. Kohl Kohl

    Very informative article! Although I wouldn’t consider myself melancholy as a whole, mores certain aspects I definitely have a good understanding of what that person would be like. I personally do have some anxiety that I am currently dealing with, thats why I was able to relate to this article quite a bit. Thanks for the great information!

    • AnxietyPanda AnxietyPanda

      You’re welcome, Kohl! Thanks for your comment 🙂 Panda-love

  4. Victor Victor

    This blog post was very insightful, it makes me think of one person in particular. And I’m now convinced that he has this personality. However, I will not be mentioning it to him, I am going to suggest giving back and creating healthy sleeping habits. I like that you included a personality test, I’m going to take it. 

    • AnxietyPanda AnxietyPanda

      You are a good friend! Gently suggest ways to improve his life and just be there for him every step of the way 🙂


    Wait. Will that sleep sound just go on and on for 9 hours? Interesting. I took the quiz and it turned out that I’m not Melancholic. I don’t know if I should be happy or sad, but wow. How I wished the outcome could have really mentioned what my real personality trait is.

    But how come Melancholic people have such a mixture of emotions? All the negative and positives to deal with. That seems quite a lot to handle emotionally. 

    Now when it comes to relationships, they also tend to be clingy. By the way, would your personality trait have anything to do with Zodiac signs?

    • AnxietyPanda AnxietyPanda

      Hi there,

      Yes, the sleep sound video will go on for 9 hours 🙂

      Here is a link to a free quiz that will help you better determine into which of the four personality temperaments you fall under.

      The Melancholic personality is extremely complex and remember that most people have a mixture of these personalities. It is very seldom that a person will be a PURE melancholic or PURE Sanguine, for example. 

      Quite an interesting question regarding the Zodiac signs! Hope this helps – The Earth signs – Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn – tend to be Melancholic, and that is their main temperament. There’s a very interesting read on it available here 🙂

  6. Emmy Emmy

    Wow! This is the most enjoyable read in the recent past! I felt like I was reading about myself! I am a pure melancholy and its so true how we value few friendships.  In other readings, they call us introverts whose energy is inward and needs recharging more so often.  I agree with you that we need to take care of ourselves as melancholics because at times we give out out time and resources to taking care of other people and we tend to forget about ourselves.  I have purposed to have self care mediation moments for me just before I go to bed and these have really be energizing for me. The world needs more of melancholics for peaceful existence.

    • AnxietyPanda AnxietyPanda

      Beautiful! I love your comparison to melancholics and having a peaceful existence! Yes, the melancholic sure does want everybody to just be happy and love each other.

  7. Snap Brisk Snap Brisk

    What a great article. 

    Actually now I’ve realised that I have a melancholic in my family. They are really a bit complicated and moody, so its good to know how to make them happy :). It’s so true that sleeping habits are key to their happiness. If they sleep well morning they will spread their love 🙂

    BTW the profession of my family member is an accountant so this is really interesting …

    thank you for sharing such a great information 

    • AnxietyPanda AnxietyPanda

      Glad you could find some use from this article! 

  8. Steve Steve

    Reading this post describes me pretty much to a nutshell.  I am an accountant and am very analytical. It’s funny, because I don’t demonstrate all of the features of a melancholy personality, but I definitely exude some of them.  I can also see a lot of these traits in my co-workers.  Very interesting read.  Is this something that can change over time?  Because I feel that as I get older, I am more relaxed with certain things, like my house being immaculate all the time.  Yes, at the end of the day, I demonstrate many of these strengths and weaknesses and it kind of makes me laugh.  You nailed it!  Thanks, and I look forward to your response.

    • AnxietyPanda AnxietyPanda

      It’s quite normal to not demonstrate ALL of the features of a certain personality type. Don’t worry, many people are usually a mixture of the personality types. I , for example, am Melancholic-Phlegmatic. But you can be a combination of any of these. 🙂 

      Personality traits usually stay quite stable, however the can change slowly but surely over time, so I’m not surprised that you have noted this about yourself. The changes manifesting are usually for the better. I myself have undergone a minor change over the last 10 years. In your example, relaxing a little about the house being perfect is definitely good for you, because you can relax and not be stressed about something small like one speck of dust on the counter xP 

  9. Brian Brian


    What an informative post! Of all the great information you’ve laid out for us, what sticks out for me, is the graphic showing the strengths and weaknesses of someone who has a melancholic personality. The way my brain works that pic is extremely useful.

    I read your post all the way through, and am trying to determine whether or not I fall into this category. Before making that mental assessment, it’s probably best to read about every different trait, then judge. 

    Awesome work, and thank you for the effort you put into this!

    • AnxietyPanda AnxietyPanda

      Thanks for stopping by, Brian! Glad you found the graphic useful! I too am a visual learner 🙂

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