Did you know that in psychology there are four different major personality traits or temperaments that a person may exhibit? They are called Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholic and Phlegmatic. There are also mentions of a fifth temperament – Supine. Many people show a combination of these traits in their behavior. It is important to point out that there has never been any scientific proof of these personality types, but interestingly enough in a recent 2018 study, scientists have now determined that evidence indeed does exist for personality types. They call them Average, Self-Centred, Role Model, or Reserved, with most people being Average.
For the purposes of this article, AnxietyPanda will be investigating what is a Melancholy personality specifically.
What is a Melancholy personality? Some traits and characteristics
The idealistic Melancholic is often more prone to anxiety and depression than the other personality temperaments. They are also creative, philosophical and want everybody around them to be happy – often leading to them self-sacrificing a lot on behalf of other people. They allow themselves to be easily taken advantage of and often are.
Many melancholics are overly sensitive or emotional and will often be seen as pessimistic, although that may not always be their intention.
Friendship wise, they would prefer 1 close friend than many friends. They are extremely loyal and dedicated, so you can be sure that if you have a Melancholic as a friend, they will stick with you for life. They also prefer one-on-one social engagement and will shy away from large social gatherings.
Because of their perfectionistic and orderly tendencies, a Melancholic parent will often expect perfectionism from their children. Be careful of enforcing your own ideas on your child, who may not share your traits. Melancholics place a high value on education and the development of creative abilities. Their homes will most probably also be clean and orderly and the kids will be expected to bring their part.
At work, the Melancholic is deadline driven, pays attention to detail, and have the ability to solve problems creatively. Their work is always completed on time and they like to leave their desks neat and orderly.
A problem for many Melancholics is with the expression of gratitude and being thankful. Not because they are rude, but because they often think that certain things just ought to be done and therefore no thanks are needed. They just don’t see the logic in it. So, this is definitely something they can pay attention to and try to better, as most of society really appreciate gratitude.
Melancholy Strengths and Weaknesses
As you can see from the above table, there are just as many strengths as weaknesses for the Melancholic. These, however, are not the only ones, but the most important ones. A Melancholy’s weaknesses are easy to control and when their strengths are continuously nurtured, you will see them blossom into an amazing human being.
Best Career Choice for the Melancholic Personality Type
As long as the job description includes precision or the ability to “give back”, the melancholic personality will thrive. Some famous Melancholics include Albert Einstein (Physicist), Vincent Van Gogh(Artist), John Keats (Poet), and Audrey Hepburn (Actress).
There are many vocations for the Melancholic out there. Here are a few to get your thoughts moving in the right direction:
- Doctor or surgeon
- Mechanical Engineer
- Vet nurse
- Writer or poet
Self-Improvement Techniques for the Melancholic
Do at least one thing every day that makes you happy.
By doing this, it also means that you will be spending less time doing the things that make you unhappy. The benefits of happiness speak for itself. It is extremely important to stop doing things that will make other people happy. Start focusing on things that make YOU happy. Start with something small, like blowing bubbles, for example, and gradually work your way up from there.
Take care of yourself.
Taking care of your health, both mentally and physically, should be one of your top priorities if you are a Melancholic. Be sure to take your multivitamins and stay away from the negative thoughts – they are not true and certainly not good for you.
Every time you have a negative thought, try to counter it with a positive affirmation, such as “I approve of myself”. AnxietyPanda has found much success with this technique.
Also, be sure to eat healthily and get enough exercise. Look after your body as if it is your most prized possession. You are guaranteed to feel terrific once these healthy habits have been formed.
Donate to or volunteer at your favorite charity. It’s good for your soul, especially volunteering, as you might see that your problems are not half as bad as those of the less fortunate.
Or, help someone in need unexpectedly. Just do something kind for someone else on a regular basis. By giving, your happiness is sure to increase.
Practice healthy sleeping habits.
If you’re well rested, your mood will automatically be a lot better. Try to go to bed and get up at the same times, every day. Sleep in a darkened room, get heavier curtains if you must. If you live in a noisy city, why not consider getting noise-canceling headphones or listen to some binaural beats, as in the video below:
How To Make A Melancholy Happy
It is important for the Melancholic to feel validated and needed, even if they seem to shrug off compliments or seem disinterested in you. They really take every compliment to heart and being treated with empathy means the world to them.
Spend time with them and let them know that you care by showing them patience and understanding with the things that they are going through. Remember, empathy is key.
Surprise them with a gift, or take them out to one of their favorite activities. This will help them take their mind off their troubles. Be sure that it is something they like, and not something that you like.
The Melancholic and Love
The Melancholic is one of the most difficult, but also most passionate of the personality types to love.
They may be moody, awkward, or overly cautious, but once the Melancholy has chosen to love you, they will remain loyal and faithful to you until the end. They really take their relationships seriously and definitely wishes for ideal love and romance, just like in the fairy tales.
They tend to be fearful of many things and this may cause them to seem clingy or demanding. They are also very traditional in their way of thinking.
You will need to show a lot of love, patience, and empathy. It will be worth it.